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Self Confidence and Personal Leadership


What do we mean by self-confidence?

Confidence can mean different things to different people. In the main, self -confidence is the belief you have in yourself in terms of your ability to, do something. Your belief in making the right judgments and choices in a situation and generally how you feel and think about yourself and the qualities you have as a human being.

What do we mean by personal leadership?

Again, personal leadership can mean different things to people. In the main, personal leadership is around how we can be more self-aware of the choices available to us, be aware of our limitations, but in a way empowers us to recognise what is within our control, and what we maybe need to learn to adapt to, as best we can. 

In addition to recognising our own abilities and limitations, it means we are more sensitive to the limitations of others. 

There is no perfect person with all the answers and expecting that of someone else, is as unrealistic as others expecting that of us.

Why is Self Confidence and Personal Leadership important?

We all have needs and at times we can all struggle to have those needs met. These struggles can range from the need for food and shelter, to, the need to find love, or, make a difference in the world. Or, a combination of this and so much more.

To become leaders in our own life, we need to learn to have confidence in our own abilities and choices. 

To be self-aware and recognise we will make mistakes, everyone makes mistakes, but its how we learn and to know when something is hard and to ask for help, as all of us at some time need help.

COVID19 has and continues to pose many challenges to most of us. In many ways. It's in our interests to build our confidence to face those challenges and to proactively take steps to find a way through for ourselves, our families, our communities. 

Working together, realising none of us alone has the answers, but building our personal capacity to rise to the challenges means we can all show leadership in the direction we take our own lives and how we can help others. 

Think of the geese.

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Geese Teamwork Fact 1: As each goose flaps its wings it creates an "uplift" for the birds that follow. By flying in a "V" formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew alone.

Lesson: People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are travelling on the thrust of one another.

Geese Teamwork Fact 2: When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as a goose, we stay in formation with those headed where we want to go. We are willing to accept their help and give our help to others.

Geese Teamwork Fact 3: When the lead goose tires, it rotates back into formation and another goose flies to the point position.

Lesson: It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership. As with geese, people are interdependent on each other's skills, capabilities and unique arrangements of gifts, talents or resources.

Geese Teamwork Fact 4: The geese flying in formation honk to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

Lesson: We need to make sure our honking is encouraging. In groups where there is encouragement, the production is much greater. The power of encouragement is the quality of honking we seek.

Geese Teamwork Fact 5: When a goose gets sick, wounded or shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it to help and protect it. They stay with it until it dies or is able to fly again. Then, they launch out with another formation or catch up with the flock.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as geese, we will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.''

Realising we matter, recognising life does present challenges and we all have needs, building our confidence to make the most of opportunities which present themselves and where there are no opportunities work with others to help create them, can help us build a kinder fairer world. 

We attach a wee confidence workbook and affirmation cards which may be a useful tool in your reflections. Also please listen to our video, 'what are you saying to yourself because you are listening' Words do have power and our self-talk matters

Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong 

Ella Fitzgerald
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