COPE provides a range of services to individuals and groups based on a community development and regeneration approach.
How do you be resilient for life?
Learning how to bounce back from sad, bad, disappointing things in life is not a choice if you want to survive to the next good thing in life for when it comes along.
- Self-care-Make sure you are looking after your body, eating properly, getting a good night’s sleep, drinking plenty of water, take exercise. These are the basics, don’t forget them. You can’t make potato soup without potatoes!
- Trust yourself/believe in yourself – talk to yourself in a positive way ,do things that keeps your confidence and self-esteem good
- Be aware of change – everyday changes, the weather, people change their minds , services change, you change your clothes, you change the style of your hair. Look at change as a positive thing in life
- Set Goals- these can be from cleaning a drawer out, doing the windows or registering to do a course or take driving lessons
- Have a support system – stay in touch with people, friends, family or a group of people that you do things with (hobby)
- Be realistic with yourself- Everyone one loves a good story but sometimes they can be so far-fetched they become unbelievable, so keep it real with yourself and others, be honest
- Stay in the moment – try and remember that there are only 24 hours in a day and that because things change, running into the past or the future can take a lot of energy, so why not keep that energy for what is really going on in the moment
Steps to Bouncing Back from losing your job
- Once you have been laid off, take a mini holiday!!! Take a week off. Do some chores around your house. Do something in the garden if you have one. Take up an old hobby. Spend time with your kids (if you have any). Work out. Do something to take your mind off of being miserable.
- After your mini "holiday", sit down and revamp your CV, get help to do this if you need it. Map out your most recent skills and update them onto your CV. Remember that your CV is the first impression a potential boss has of you. Go online and check out some CV samples in your field of work, and model yours after them. Check out some job postings of your position, and make sure that you are putting the requirements that they are asking for on your CV (only if you are skilled in those items, of course).
- Downsize! Take all your expenses and get rid of all the things that are unnecessary. Cut down on all the luxuries. You didn't see your lay off coming, so chances are you are in for a big shock with bills. Some bills you can get rid of are your satellite TV, fancy mobile phones and anything that isn’t essential. Your priorities for now are groceries, making sure the kids if you have them have suitable clothes and footwear for the seasons, rent, council tax and fuel costs. If you have debts speak to someone about help to speak to your creditors to see what arrangements can be made.
- Link in with all agencies who have a remit to support you back into work, also subscribe to online job sites, if broadband was one of the luxuries you had to let go use the local community free digital access points to get online. It maybe you need to take temporary work and lower paying odd jobs to make ends meet until you find that perfect job to bounce back to.
- Go back to learning. Take this unplanned time off to pick up some classes that will improve your CV. Think about what can make you better than the hundreds of other applicants out there. Get certified in Microsoft Office applications if you are an administrative assistant. Get SVQ’s if you want to work in a health and social care. Go out there and build yourself as a stronger worker so that others will not be considered over you. The competition for work is a big one nowadays.
- Do not lose hope. You are not alone.
- Remember that you are the only one that can get yourself on your feet. Do not sit around and wait for a job to fall in your lap. It is a guarantee that this will not happen.
- Do not fall into any "work-at-home" scams. Educate yourself on which jobs are legit to apply to. If it is too good to be true, or asks you for money or a credit check, it may not be true at all. Also, if any positions are requiring money from you upfront, chances are that those positions are also scams.
- Sell yourself. Make sure to show confidence in yourself when you interview.
- And the biggest advice of them all is to not bad mouth your previous employer at interviews. Speak highly of them no matter how much remorse you may feel for them due to your lay off. It is not professional and really doesn't look good on your behalf
- This can be a challenging time emotionally, you don’t need to go through it alone there are agencies who can help